#1 – They are not willing to fight FOR purity. (Trust me…if they won’t fight for purity with you before you are married, there’s a good chance they won’t fight for purity after you’re married. Marriage doesn’t cure impure thoughts and actions.
#2 – They are trying to get you to compromise with what God’s Word says so clearly. (If they lead you away from God’s Word before marriage, they are even more likely to do so after marriage. The way they have lived in their past and the way they are living now are indicators of how they are going to live when they marry you. You cannot change them…you are NOT the Holy Spirit!)
#3 – You’re always defending him/her to the people who know you, love you and love Jesus. (Love is blind…and many times we have blind spots that others can see so clearly.)
#4 – You find yourself not wanting to talk about him/her in front of the people in your life that you know may disapprove of the relationship for some reason. (When this happens, you are choosing to ignore what the Lord could be trying to make obvious through others because you are too involved emotionally to make a rational decision.)
#5 – You know the relationship isn’t really going anywhere, but you don’t want to break up because doing so would cause insecurity because you have allowed yourself to be identified by who you are dating rather than who you are in Christ.
#6 – You find out that they are lying to you. If they lie to you before you are married, then they will lie to you in marriage.
#7 – You cannot confront them about issues without them losing their temper.
#8 – You discover that they have been unfaithful to you.
#9 – If something about them absolutely drives you insane, and you convince yourself that after you get married “that problem” will go away. (In actuality, it won’t…it will be magnified!)
#10 – If the Lord has specifically spoken to you and instructed you to end the relationship but you can’t/won’t because you either “don’t want to hurt them” or you fear that if you end this relationship you won’t have another chance at one.